Posted by Darth Dobbin at 234.11.pool.outpost.com on February 24, 2000 at 12:36:16:
In Reply to: Re: And this explains why you are my guru... posted by Mark Cowling on February 24, 2000 at 11:48:00:
I'm sure that could occupy a few hours of your time, and keep you out of the board's collective hair.
You just don't get it. 33% of women are assaulted. Do you have a mom, aunt and grandma? Chances are, one of them has had to fend off (or did not succeed) some fuckwad who also just did not get it. My eyes were opened some years back when a good friend of mine was raped, and, in the aftermath, upon talking with other women in my life, I found out that my mom was attacked and beaten by a date when she was 18, and that 3 other friends of mine had similar incidences. those are just the ones who talked about it. The scales fell off my eyes like Saul on the road to Damascus, pal.
These are people I knew and loved, and they were sitting on this powder keg of pain, fear, and humiliation, and I was blissfully unaware. Knowing that this happens, and that those guys are laughing about it, and coining terms like "donkey punch"..It's enough to make you homocidal. The year this all happened, I picked a lot of fights with a lot of frat-boys ; I rationalized it as a sort of karmic-redistribution.. . But you know what? that was just me, trying to regain a little "pwer" after feeling powerless myself that this had been going on, without me knowing. Can you possibly imagine the powerlessness felt as the actual victim of an assault?
The reality is, thousands of women, every day, dude, have to deal and cope with shit foisted upon them by fucked up guys with Madonna/Whore complexes, and an no inhibitions about using physical force. Yes, ALL VIOLENCE IS WRONG, duh, but, I''m more concerned with the violence that is ACTUALLY HAPPENING, and has been happening.
I'm not goting to try to convince you of anything. I will simply ask you, politely, to go away.
Please.
: : What I do suggest, is return what is received. If there's an attack made on your sexuality, well then by all rights make an equal attack back. Lorena Bobbitt may have frightened some males, but consider: *one* severed penis during 6000 years of patriarchal oppression & rape. At least Lorena concentrated her anger towards the object of her oppression.
: : If a man attempts to rape me, I won't kill him. But he won't ever be raping anyone again, I promise you that.
: Possibly. Or perhaps you'll be killed. At the very least you would spend months or years of your life in prison and deservedly so.
: Can't you see how this would make you no better than him?