Posted by Isis at 147.129.97.26 on September 08, 2000 at 16:09:26:
In Reply to: help me, insightful people, please. posted by barbie_addict on September 08, 2000 at 14:59:27:
With a note attached -- "I was going to send you a quarter & tell you to call someone who cares, but it appears you don't know anybody who fits that description within a non-long distance area. Thus, I recommend to you the Dennis Miller savings plan."
Just kidding. Seriously, this guy's obsession with you comes into more focus with the simple phrase "latest ex-fiancee".
Just for future reference, a couple of thoughts -- number one, getting engaged repeatedly is not the greatest activity for someone who's still searching for themselves. Number 2, ex-boyfriends generally (though there are those shining exceptions) make the WORST friends. I can't imagine why you are holding on to this one, unless he's one of, as Chris Rock calls them, the "dick in a glass case" standbys.
If this friend were female, would you stand for her constant dependence and dumping of all her problems on you? No. So don't stand for it now. Be firm with the guy on the limits of friendship and advice you're willing to offer him, and if he doesn't like it, tough noogie.
-- Isis
Regressing to infantile slang. Next I'll have done it all for the nookie.
: I need advice. I don't know how to tell my best friend and latest ex- fiancee who lives billions of miles away how to deal with his other girl problems or with the problem that he also wants me to be there for him again as a girlfriend when I'm living it up and trying to figure out who I am as a person, the meaning of life and all those other questions that are easier to deal with when one is single. I don't want to hurt him because all the e-mail I send him explaining my sentiments he finds too evilly bitter and he gets upset. How much should I worry about this? What should I tell him? You all watch movies with interesting relationship dynamics. Or else you wouldn't be here. So I'm sure somebody could please give me advice.There has to be a solution that I'm not realizing here. As if Chasing Amy didn't teach you anything.