Posted by Beavis at maxtnt03-sdf-213.fast.net on February 18, 2001 at 10:37:36:
In Reply to: Crisis #1 posted by PeterParker on February 18, 2001 at 10:04:40:
Ok bro, it may be off topic, but I sincerely hope that I'm not the only one who has something to say to you about this dilemma of yours. I myself went through the very same thing a few years ago. I am this generation's last hopeless romantic, everything a woman "SAYS" she is looking for in a guy. And for 6 years I had dedicated my heart, soul and life to this one girl who just happened to live next door to me. She was everything I "thought" I was looking for in woman AT THE TIME. We were always together, and I loved her like I thought I could never love anyone else, but whenever we were together, she didn't feel "it" for me. To her, all we were was really close friends. Then after 6 wasted years of pining and hoping and trying (and spending ALOT of money), I ask her straight out if we will ever be more than friends. This happening 2 weeks before Christmas, I should've known better. The bomb got dropped on me with an almost teary "no" from her. I meant alot to her and it hurt her to have to answer that question, but it was long past-due. Since then we have had very little contact with each other, if none at all. I don't heavily believe in astrology, but I read a report about capricorn's(which I am) and it nailed me right on target. I lose my heart easily, but if I feel betrayed, then I can resent someone just as easily as I had loved them, and for awhile after that confrontation happened, I avoided her at all costs, because I did, in all honesty, waste 6 years of my life on her. I fell into a depression after that, and I would bawl my eyes out everytime I watched the ending of Chasing Amy, because I know that's where the relationship was heading, feeling like strangers to each other.
My advice to you my friend, ask her straight out, in the end it IS up to HER after all, you know? Get it out of the way now before too much time goes by forcing you to resent her.
I know this isn't what you want to hear right now, but plain and simple, you don't have much of a choice in the matter. Either find out now, or let it ride out and find out the same thing later.
Rob
: I know this is totally off subject matter and frankly, I am very sorry. But, i need help and i don't think there are any people that could help me more that you loyal askewers. If i t means i get kicked off here, then do it, i just need to try. Well, I met this wonderful girl a few weeks ago. She is dead on everything anyone would look for in a girl. She is the first girl that my attraction isn't based on just sexual attributes alone. It seems that I love this girl more than anyone before. But there is a problem... she liked me and all and we were getting together... but as hard as she and I try... she just doesn't feel 'it' when we are together. But I mean she loves who I am. But "it" just isn't there. What can I do? Anyone had a similar problem? I need help cause there is little doubt in my mind that she isn't the one for me. But I can't get to her. Does anyone know a thing I can do? I need some kind of input. Is there any hope? Thank you guys so much for readin. Seeya
: -Parker
: "I don't know whether I am alive and dreaming or dead and remembering"