Posted by mrsjiggy at user-33qtmfc.dialup.mindspring.com on February 26, 2001 at 04:24:16:
In Reply to: Chasing Amy Syndrome posted by XcynicismX on February 26, 2001 at 01:08:03:
And now for a woman's opinion...someone who can see another side... there are a lot of expectations from men (whether conscious or not) that many women may find inhibiting and intimidating. If she is the one telling you these things from her past, I think you should take it as a compliment (in some ways). It means she trusts you and feels comfortable enough with you to discuss things she may rather keep locked away forever. My only advice is this... act with maturity in whatever you do.
As difficult as it is for you to hear about these things...think about how difficult it more than likely is for her to share them with you.
As much as I totally dug Chasing Amy...I was terribly bothered by how Holden reacted to Alyssa's ultimate disclosure. Although I must admit...I loved the ending and it probably paralleled life more realistically than I would care to admit. It was so nice to not have a one of those trumped up Hollywood endings that tends to ruin what would otherwise be a perfectly good movie. Of course, it IS the great work of Kevin Smith, not some Hollywood sell-out...
To sum things up...act with maturity. Try to put yourself in her shoes. And, remember nobody's perfect. I'm sure everybody (or almost everybody) has something in their past they would rather forget, but can't.
mrsj
: So, here's my story:
: I've been dating my girlfriend for about five months now. We have a really great relationship, and I love getting to know her the more time progresses. Unfortunately, I seem to be learning all sorts of obnoxious aspects of her sexual past. While most of them are "try it once" or "I was really drunk" or "i just wanted him to like me" type decisions, i still get the mental pictures, and they make me really uncomfortable. (i mean, try and picture your girlfriend in a sex sandwich with two guys!) I love this woman more than anything, and would not want to leave her by any means, I was just hoping that someone out there (preferably even the great Kevin Smith himself) could offer up some sage-like advice to help me deal with this strife that is the only thing that inhibits me in our relationship.