Posted by phone monkey at jerry1.healthpartners.com on February 04, 2002 at 19:20:32:
In Reply to: KEVIN...Your love for Jen is an inspiration posted by Gob on February 04, 2002 at 17:36:25:
: True love is a beautiful thing.
: I just read your "Arena" article entitled "Jens's Painting". The way you speak of your wife, particularly your reference to her as "the keeper of all of your tomorrows" is heart-warming.
: In my experience, men do not often have/take the opportunity to publicly express their feelings for the ones they love. Moreover, when they do, it is usually accompanied by some kind of foolishness, lest they be mocked by anyone who might bring their manhood into question for being sentimental.
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: Certainly, the nature of your films might indicate a propensity for the above mentioned foolishness, but you were quite eloquent. I would never presume to make an assumption about anyone based on the limited information available on a website or articles about that person; and I would never presume to know you, but you must admit, you do project a somewhat "non-serious" image.
: So often, we do not express to our loved ones how we truly feel about them. We just assume they know. Your loving words about your relationship with Jen, the acknowledgement of the sacrifices she made to be with you and her need to do something "all her own" touched my heart. Your love for your partner is evident and I am sure if you were speaking those words rather than writing them, your love for her would be written all over your face.
: Jen managed to snag a good one. I hope she realizes what a prize she has in you. I hope she takes a copy of that article and tapes it to the back of her painting. As her painting will immortalize her for generations to come, those generations will be warmed to know how much her husband loved and appreciated her. Then, your love for her will be immortalized with her.
: Since becoming a Kevin Smith fan, I have always had a great respect for your talent as a writer/director and your ability to make us laugh. Now I can add to that list, a respect for a devoted husband and father. Congratulations for managing to be one of the good guys in a sea of so many fuck-ups.
: Ever a devoted fan,
: Laura
I love what you wrote. I posted on this a few days ago.
Yes, so true. Of all the things to really want to see in a couple, is there anything better than seeing that they are still fascinating to each other?
It seems like the times when a pair might be hitting some tension - like the kinds of things he mentions in the article, crossed up career goals, compromises - there's a disconnect that keeps people from being able to see inside each other anymore. Worse, the enjoyment of each other is dampened by the stress.
That is what I loved about this - how the situation was so positive, energizing, fun. Like my husband says, nothing beats fun for a good time.
I was inspired by this article.
I'm a graduate student in family therapy by night, and I am frustrated by the process of solving relationship problems we have to offer.
Jeff is already worried that we'll have to build an 8-foot fence to keep the neighbors from spying on my unorthodox garden-therapy. But he sees this too. Pulling together to make like great can't be harder than pulling lives apart. The question is how to generate the energy to do it.
And I still hope I can figure out a way to print out a copy. Any advice?