Posted by phone monkey at 2cust167.tnt2.minneapolis3.mn.da.uu.net on March 08, 2002 at 11:12:59:
In Reply to: GLADD: 1 YOU:0 posted by coolassgrip on March 07, 2002 at 23:00:36:
: I bet 10 to 1 mine comes back identical. Those guys are so gay.
: -paT
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: : have anything to say to them?
: : Seems like they might not have time to answer personally, though I did send a kind of personal email to them. Though perhaps y'all think it would be best to let this go? water under the bridge? Each must follow his/her own conscience.
: : And by the way, there's info in their answer on how to get in touch with them if you want to work with them. Or have an opinion to share with them.
: : This is what I sent them:
: : I've got a question for you.
: : After years of dating, and not dating, of attending weddings of friends both straight and gay, I was pretty sure I had the the whole male-female gender role/sexual identity thing figured out. Yea, I understood what it meant to be a man or woman. I'm kind of a tomboy. My husband is an artistic homebody. Friends tease me that when I married him it was to connect with my feminine side. He has a girl who is eight soon, four years old when we married. She is the epitome of little girl - dresses, tea parties, Barbies...
: : ... and it's as if God looked down on me from heaven and said, "So, you have the whole gender role thing figured out? Pretty confident about what it is to be a man or woman?
: : Well. I have a gift for you. She is four, and she is delicate. She is polite and sweet, and rarely gets dirty. And she will look to you for how she is to feel about herself. Ready? Go!"
: : She is a beautiful gift and a reason for me to remain humble. I really don't want to blow this with her - I want her to feel good about who she is, and not at the expense of anyone else.
: : So I take it quite seriously when anyone raises the homophobe flag. We tell her we're a team, and life gets better when the team pulls together.
: : So, as a fan of Kevin Smith and his films, I must ask you honestly, what did you intend by calling his films homophobic? I've spent some time thinking about these issues, and I really want to know how much you think it is acceptable for someone who is not gay to reference gay culture or sexual acts because it seems like it is becoming very strict.
: : What reverent tones exactly are required to discuss homosexual acts and feelings? Am I to make this distinction very precise with her so she can understand that WE are straight (and do I include her in that group now or do I give it a few years?) and THEY are Gay. That WE can talk about funny things WE do, but WE don't talk about what THEY do?
: : Can it be that we see this film so differently? I doubt it.
: : No, I think I'll stick with the original plan. We're a team. Sometimes people on the team will do goofy things. But it's not who the person is that we laugh at. It's just the stupid stuff people do.
: : Like GLAAD attacking one of the most gay-friendly straight filmmakers in America because they want his money and some attention. I can't think of any other reason to do that.
: : Now that the DVD is selling so extremely well, do you think you could generate some publicity by publicly apologizing for the earlier mistake? I think it wouldn't be out of line to make up with the guy. C'mon - he did make Chasing Amy.
: : Sincerely,
: : AND THIS IS WHAT THEY SENT ME: (So far)
: : Thank you for writing the Gay & Lesbian
: : Alliance Against Defamation (GLAAD).
: : We appreciate that you took the time to
: : contact us and we will carefully consider
: : the comments you have submitted. Once
: : your e-mail has been reviewed, it will be
: : forwarded to the correct department.
: : However, due to the large volumes of e-
: : mail we receive, you may not get a
: : personalized response.
: : GLAAD's mission is to promote and
: : ensure fair, accurate, and inclusive
: : representations of individuals and events
: : in all media as a means of eliminating
: : homophobia and discrimination based
: : on gender identity and sexual orientation.
: : If you would like to contact someone at
: : GLAAD directly, please proceed to our
: : web site at http://www.glaad.org and click
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: : regional media manager, whom you may
: : contact for further assistance. While
: : there, we encourage you to sign up for
: : the regional Call to Action, an e-mail
: : publication designed to keep you in touch
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: : look forward to hearing from you again in
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