Posted by Hermione at ppp-216-101-156-163.dialup.snrf01.pacbell.net on May 27, 2002 at 02:04:58:
In Reply to: Having Alittle Love Trouble posted by Maul on May 26, 2002 at 19:36:56:
..it also requires a lot more. (WARNING: Lecture ahead)
When you marry someone, you become their partener in amny more things than sex and romance. You may eventually have kids together. Is she consistent enough to be a good mother to your children? Maybe she will be in the future, but it doesn't sound like she's ready yet.
Sit down, clear your head the best that you can, and think about what you want and deserve in a marriage (DO NOT use her as something to measure against, and do not expect her to change over time).
I'm not saying she's not a wonderful peron, but even the most wonderful person may not be the right match for your beliefs and lifestyle.
This would be a good time to pretend you're a Vulcan and have no emotions, as our emotions (while beautiful and neccessary) are often the major factor in our mistakes. Choosing someone to raise kids with and devote your life to is not something you want to make a mistake on.
Good luck, and I hope her migrains get better.
: ok, well, where to start... I have been seeing this girl for 2 and half years, we were great friends before we started dating and still are. We were even engaged. I gave her a Ring. she gets Extreme Migraine headaches and has to go to the doctor everyone few months to get special shots. 2 weeks ago during a very stressfull time she started fight with me over everything everyday.. she then came out and said that we should break up. I didnt want to... nor do I want to now... she said that she wasnt sure she still loved me. This hurt ALOT and still does. she gave me her ring back and I still have it. she asked me if I could ever find anyone else, and what if i just all of a sudden found someone else and fell in love at first sight.. I said that it wouldnt happen. and That Iloved her.. and i DO love her. After she got her headache shots it all went back to normal and we are back together.. but i still have my ring... she doesnt know if she wants to marry me...
: well 2 days ago a old friend of hers from high school came over for the day and I must say .... I cant get her out of my mind.... But I LOVE my girlfriend, I am very confused.. I'm not sure what to do...
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: Maul