Posted by pixies chick at 1cust40.tnt2.minneapolis3.mn.da.uu.net on July 10, 2002 at 13:17:40:
In Reply to: like I have always said.... posted by GuinnessGuy(poolboy) on July 10, 2002 at 12:58:47:
: If I ever slam my dick in a car door, you can best bet that I will make sure to never have my dick out around car doors again....
door, I must agree that it is difficult to understand the temptation to come back when the relationship is abusive. Family systems theory says that it is part of the family's story - that's what they're about and until they decide to change it, the story continues on in this destructive-self-destructive manner.
Real sorry to hear about this tragedy. I don't have good answers, just some blue thoughts about it all.
I think if there is violence in a couple relationship, therapy ought to take place for both partners.
I think there should be a manditory separation period, enforced through court order -- i.e., neither partner is jailed if they agree to not see each other for a period of a few weeks minimum.
I think if either partner refuses to participate in counseling following a violent incident, the state sanctioned relationship between the two of them is terminated.
Hey, it's tough, but all it asks is some deep breathing, a little deep thinking, and some time to let things cool off. The alternative is harsh, but if they are beating the shit out of eachother, they really probably don't have a reason to have the state support the relationship any longer.