Posted by MichelleInMichigan at beckyj.hris.msu.edu on November 13, 2002 at 16:52:24:
In Reply to: Well its difficult to say posted by adamapple76 on November 13, 2002 at 16:38:36:
: if your mother has to move in with you, you need to establish ground rules and space, and make her understand its your house, and your rules and just because she is mom, she will not change that.
Very good points.
: Also, understand, if she is coming to you, she is on some level wanting or needing something. Whether its to be with you or just not be alone, or whether its a financial issue, so saying no is a big decision.
Definitely a big decision. I'm pretty sure she's trying to do this to try to "fix" the past. She's eluded that on several occasions.
: Above all, you're suggestion that you "stop whining" is a good one, but only because you need to open a dialogue with her, and if you do have her move in, talk honestly and openly about why she is coming to stay there, and what both of you expect from the other.
That was another really good point, and one that I am going to take to heart.
Thanks for the honest advice, sometimes I need to be brought down to earth.
Now, do you want to write your article on counseling women who flip out? You better get it in soon, or DF is the one who's going to be doing the flipping.