Posted by SexyJ at 65.202.63.178 on November 12, 2002 at 09:48:16:
In Reply to: Wouldn't try....but.... posted by Chronically Blunt on November 12, 2002 at 09:38:35:
def tell her but if i were you id have a 3rd party there (or even a bunch of people) who back your story up so it doesnt look like your making it up. let her know you are just looking out for her best interest and the last thing you want is to see her get hurt. if she STILL doesnt listen (she might even go back and tell him what you and everyone said) then thats her fault if something does happen.
: As I said, I used to work there, and I saw this guy hit on everything that moved. Single, Married, Divorced, Widowed, didn't matter. And he's already been shot by somebody's husband. Unfortunatey he survived.
: Peas
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: : because if she is a strong woman, she will do opposite of what you tell her just to piss you off. then rub your face in it and dump you. hell she might even cheat on you cause you tell her not to.
: : your best bet is to tell her about this guys history. (is his history about ALL girls or just girls hes 'involved' with? if its just ones hes involved with, you shouldnt have anything to worry about). once you tell her about the guys history, let her be a grown up (which she is) and make up her own mind. if she then still gets hurt, be the better man and be there for her, just dont say 'i told you so'.
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: : : OK, so last night I'm sitting at home, and my girlfriend's cell phone rings. Turns out, it's a guy she works with, and whom I used to work with. Now, I've known this guy for 10 years. And, without going into much detail, I can say that he's not very smart, has a history of mistreating women, and getting himself into trouble.
: : : So naturally, being that I love the girl, I tell her that it isn't in her best interest, and I would prefer she didn't, assosciate with him. And, as the normal course goes, she says I'm being possessive, they're just friends and that she doesn't see why she can't hang out with him.
: : : Consequently, a girl that I used to coach, is going to be in town this weekend, and I told her that I would meet her for dinner. Now, this girl is 19, and I've known her since she was 10. I'm 24. So my girlfriend insists that these two situations are parallel, which I obviously say they are not.
: : : So my question is, which of the following roads do I take.
: : : A. Leave it alone, and take the chance that she gets hurt.
: : : B. Give her an ultimatum and forbid her from seeing him.
: : : C. Just beat the ever loving shit out of him, and hope that ends it.
: : : Please advise.
: : : Peas