Posted by SpoonyLuv at clt25-105-231.carolina.rr.com on November 18, 2002 at 00:00:59:
In Reply to: The idea that children can be themselves is a myth posted by Steven Kilpatrick (TMS) on November 17, 2002 at 23:56:44:
I think one role model will not be sufficient. With only one role model you are setting yourself up to absorb their flaws. Maybe children should have a multitude of role models so they have the tools to handle any situation.
: almost all behavior is learned.
: The idea that a child can miraculously spout personality and values is kind of outdated.
: So, who do you think would be the best person to learn behavior from? Since if children were left alone to be themselves they would be very primative creatures.
: The very idea of human cultural "uniqueness" is derived from learned behavior and the idea that being the same is wrong or uncouth.
: To truely be yourself is to choose your own role model and mimic the behaviors of those you connect with, creating your own path when you can't find your way in the ways of others. Still, you have to start somewhere.