Posted by DRD #37 at user-38ld2hr.dsl.mindspring.com on January 27, 2003 at 18:11:48:
In Reply to: Re: so, let me get this straight posted by LadyJunkmail on January 27, 2003 at 17:51:46:
: No...my son LOOKS like Kevin Smith (so much so he has been asked if he IS Mr. Smith!), and I was wondering if either Mr. or Mrs. Smith knew of anyone who was as nice as Mr. Smith's wife (in other words, someone who wouldn't judge others, like you have), in my son's age range, that he might be able to meet. He knows many young women and does date, but most of them judge on looks, not personality.
And sorry about the "Andrew Milonikas" crack, even though you probably didn't get it.
Anyway, if you want my advice - which, by now, isn't worth shit to you, and odds are you've already stopped reading this - I think if your son is having trouble finding somebody who will like him for who he is on the inside and NOT who he is on the outside, that's really his problem. Finding a totally non-shallow person is a very, very difficult task to the point of it almost being impossible. Most people, whether they'll admit it or not, make a lot of judgments based on what others look like and not for their personality. It may take years for your son to find somebody who he can be happy with and who can truly be happy with him. From the sound of it, your son is rather young, so he has plenty of time to find that person (and I hate stealing lines from movies, especially from the films that - through a chain of events - caused this web board to come into being) who compliments him so completely. As your son gets old, however, he'll gain more experience in life and in love, and he'll have a much easier time finding somebody who isn't as immature as these ladies he's dated seem to be, especially if he plans to go to college. (Oh Christ, the women in college! Not a one dated me based on looks. It was all based on what my major, my prospects, and my financial standing were.)
Trust me when I say that your son will, in all likelihood, find somebody who will both love and like him for the right reasons. Again, I apologize for my comment and I'm sorry I rushed to judgment. But, my straight-forward advice to you is to let your son deal with his own love life. It's not really any of Mr. or Mrs. Smith's business, nor is it the business of anyone else on this board. Your son has to find what he's looking for on his own. No matter what you do or who you go to looking for help, nothing will change that.