Posted by Bob301 at dialup-64.154.143.9.dial1.phoenix1.level3.net on March 21, 2003 at 15:41:56:
In Reply to: This Sucks posted by 311 on March 21, 2003 at 15:10:20:
: I pretty much only have 6 or 7 REAL friends. I'm in high school by the way. But i just recently foud out that even they arent my friends.
: I've realized if your not good looking or really really funy, than no one will like you. Why is everyone so fucking Superficial!
That's not true. Just put out. If you put out, people will like you.
OK, honestly, all you need is a strong personality. Know who you are, and why. People are drawn to strong personalities. This time in your life is for discovering just this information. And the reason most relationships in High School are so superficial is because these people don't know themselves, and so can't commit emotionally to anyone else. Don't stress too hard over it, though. I went through this a lot growing up. I was a military kid, and went to 14 different schools between kindergarten and Senior year. It gets easier as you go. Make you're own friends, show people who you are, and they'll flock to you like moths to a flame. Let them know you are investing in them emotionally, and they'll invest in you.
(I don't know how else to describe true friendships. This is the best I can do)
: Fuck this sucks so much. It feels pretty shitty to never have anyone call you or invite you anywhere. Everyone i know is always getting calls and invites, no one calls me except for my mom.
I was the fat kid, and I never got invites either. That is, until I decided I didn't need other people to tell me I was cool, or that this fad or that was right, or any of that crap. I just wore what I liked, listened to what I liked, made friends with everyone, and pretty soon I was 'in'. You don't have to be really funny if that isn't who you are. Just be sincere. People love that.
: Is my life so bad now because it will be great one day?
I won't say everyone feels this way, but I'd bet the majority do. Just remember that your attitude determines the way you see your life. You are in charge. Change something, and see if it helps. And yes, you're life gets better after high school. For those who remember high school as their glory years, they probabl haven't matured much since then.
: Or will my life always be filled with depression and loneliness?
Not if you don't want it to. This is a good start. Make friends online if you can't find people in your school who accept you. Don't change who you are, just who you are around. Everyone needs friends, and there's lots of everyone out there, if you catch my meaning. Basically, no one has too many friends. Remember that the opinions others have of you is not as important as the opinion you have of yourself. Of course, if a million people tell you you're a bad tipper, you might want to leave a little more change on the counter.
: Is god really this much of an asshole?
Yes. Look at the platypus or the manatee. I bet he finds them hilarious, the jerk.
Oh, and ignore the whole putting-out thing. I was joking.