Posted by grizzly at ip68-11-175-97.br.no.cox.net on June 10, 2003 at 13:12:44:
In Reply to: hmm..... posted by DRD #37 on June 10, 2003 at 13:08:43:
that might be the most pathetic thing i've ever read here. Sympathy will get you nowhere. Dont beg for it man. Women dont like that shit....sure you might get laid once out of pity, but who wants that? I agree with half of that statement though.....act like you dont care, offer a friendship, and then dont ever call her again! She'll be beggin you for it!
: : So, Those who know my situation, this is for you. Those who dont, it doesnt really matter.
: I read about your situation, but didn't comment on it because I didn't have anything supportive to say at the time.
: : Anyway, I recieved an E-mail today from said girl, basically saying she is not emotionally ready for a relationship, and that telling her i liked her has made her feel she is responsible for my feelings, and that we shouldnt hang out anymore. Fun, eh?
: Here's my advice: tell her that you can accept that she doesn't feel the same way about you and that you're moving on, because it's no big deal to you. Tell her that you'd still like to be friends with her, and that she shouldn't feel awkward about your feelings for her because they're fading (but say that nicely). And, finally, tell her that if she still feels you two shouldn't be friends, then you can accept that and step down. Say it all in a slightly (SLIGHTLY - don't overdo it) disappointed and saddened expression and she might start to feel a little guilty and warm back up to you. It sounds manipulative, sure, but if your friendship with her is really that important to you, then it's worth a shot.
: : Also, my Ex, who was a good friend of mine, is no longer talking to me, because someone was spreading shit about her that I supposedly said, which isnt true, and she wouldn't listen to what I had to say.
: Sounds like the walls are really caving in around you, huh? I suggest leaving this one alone, as once a person (especially a woman) gets an idea in their head, it's hard to get it out. She thinks you wronged her, so just don't talk to her, contact her, go near her, or anything, or else you may feel her full wrath about those things you allegedly said.
: : Oh well, maybe I'm just not cut out for love, and maybe I'm just retarded when it comes to women. At least I still have my friends, and my dashingly lushious looks...
: Hey, unlucky at love, lucky at cards. And if you suck at cards, then just jerk off and pretend your life has meaning.