Posted by jkm822 at michigan.mgmt.rpi.edu on July 18, 2003 at 14:45:02:
In Reply to: Having a very hard time posted by Heather & the infinite sadness on July 18, 2003 at 14:34:05:
You've got plenty of people to talk to. What're we, chopped liver?
I'm in a similar, though slightly better situation. 3 years ago, I was in a nearly identical situation, except for the fact that we were never married, and that there was nothing about my ex that was kind - I no longer wanted him as a part of my life. At the time, I was forced to move back in with my parents. I don't have a volatile relationship with them, not really; we get along pretty well. But they weren't thrilled that their 20-something daughter was moving back in with them, I'll tell you that for nothing. After a year of recovery time, I moved up here, into the first of what has been 2 disgusting apartments, making crap money at a job I don't much like.
And now, I'm making an attempt to pick myself up, dust myself off, and start all over again. I'm going home. Not to my parents - they sold my house, the bastards! - but home to NJ. It's not going to be easy. I have to find a place to live, which is hard when you're three hours away and have a job, and I have to find a job in a time when that's not the easiest of things to accomplish either. But I have high hopes. I think I'm finally over the misery hump. I haven't completely recovered from the emotional trauma that was my last relationship (and it's been a good long time), but I'm much better than I was, and I expect I'll be even better with more time.
It's a question of time, unfortunately. Time to heal, recover, get your shit together again, and get to know who you are without a partner. I discovered something kinda cool in the process, though - I like me. Most of the time. Not physically, so much, but I like who I am as a person. That's what you've got to aim for.
As my father would say (which is always maddening, but true):
"And this, too, shall pass."