Posted by Slavei at 24-148-90-61.na.21stcentury.net on July 19, 2003 at 00:24:59:
In Reply to: I can not hate or be mad at him.. posted by Heather..Frozen In Time on July 19, 2003 at 00:11:00:
It's normal to feel lost when a relationship ends. Especially a marriage.
What you need - excuse me - HAVE TO do is take care of yourself now. Don't rely on someone else for your happiness. That should only come from you. NO person should be the reason for your happiness except you. They can be a big part of it, but not the sole reason for it.
He fell in love with you for a reason. You were someone before you two met. If you weren't, he wouldn't have noticed you. You have something to offer someone. He saw it then. Someone else can notice it tomorrow. Don't give up on that.
People drift apart even if they still love each other. What you need to do is 'pick up the pieces' any way you can & do things for yourself.
Of course you're allowed the normal grieving time. But when you're ready, do what you need so that you become happy with who you are.