Posted by Leesa at lsanca1-ar19-4-46-067-110.lsanca1.dsl-verizon.net on December 08, 2002 at 18:31:25:
In Reply to: Re: Your personal opinions on a personal problem.. posted by babka on December 08, 2002 at 00:25:50:
It sounds like a case fo simply not being ready. After having been in probably too many relationships and finally finding someone that I could actually spend my life with, I realized that even though I had said to myself and others that I was in love all of the other times that I had done things even subconsciously to sabotage my relationships i.e. seek out others who had even one characteristic that my current guy did not have whether it was not being intellectual enough or unable to saying anything positive. The next guy was usually the one with the missing characteristic. If she is unsatisfied with one but still spending time with him, she is probably unsatisfied with both of them. Also, knowing her, you probably know whether or not she is satisfied with herself. When either person is unsatisfied, no relationship can really work unless the other person can give the other freedom to seek one's true self whatever that happens to be. You have to be happy with yourself if you want to make anyone else happy.