Posted by Smalls at syr-24-24-14-133.twcny.rr.com on July 18, 2003 at 23:39:57:
In Reply to: Scott..is..not..a..jerk... posted by Heather & the infinite sadness on July 18, 2003 at 23:34:51:
Just remember that.
I know a lot of people who have been through what you're going through and... they cheated themselves from the healing benefit of being mad... and it made the healing process a lot longer and a lot rougher.
Let yourself be mad. Don't avoid being mad just to "be mature about it" and cheat yourself of the healing. Sometimes to be able to stop loving someone, you gotta hate them for a while.
There's nothing wrong with that.
Mike