Posted by Sir James Quixote at bpr10-156.ih2000.net on July 11, 2001 at 23:21:06:
In Reply to: The lucky ones posted by jkm822 on July 11, 2001 at 14:39:12:
I'm sorry that you've gone through...well, what you've gone through, but everything you have said proves my point. Girls would rather date their high school sweetheart through college, have kids with him, marry him, then divorce him before they reach 30, than take a chance on that friend that was always there for them when they needed him, but never gave a second thought of as a boyfriend.
And you say that a guy claiming to be a "nice guy" is lying, well I'm sorry you've been duped into thinking that. In my view, there are three kinds of guys who claim to be nice guys.
Nice Guy #1: Just wants to get into your pants.
Nice Guy #2: Has never had a girlfriend, so, for the first two or three, he may be a bit clingy. It will be a hard lesson, but if you tell him straight forward that he's clingy, dump him, and don't give him a second chance, it will make him all that better for the next girl.
Nice Guy #3: That quiet guy in the corner cubicle or the back of your Geometry class or bagging groceries in the lane next to you. Not much of a looker, but has a lot to offer. He's chivalric, sweet, smart, and a perfect gentleman.
Only in rare cases do Nice Guys #2 and #3 find girls to take a chance on them (Dobbin being one of the lucky ones), and #1 will succeed in getting into your pants. Then he'll break your heart and you'll come crying to one of the real nice guys. Then, 5 or 10 years later, you'll find someone (or stay single) and give false hope to people like myself. Cynical? Yeah. Accurate? Very. Bitter? More than you can imagine.
: Didn't this all start out as a reassurance to the guys that we're not all looking for the big, dumb bohunk? I hadn't been planning on becoming the poster child for the negative view on life and love. Ah, well...
And, for the first couple posts, it worked. Then the truth came out. Nice guys really do finish last. And it's the belief held up by all girls, and Dobbin, that keeps tripping us up and therefore never allowing us to get ahead of, at the very least, the potheads/guitarists who are ugly and have no personality, yet somehow get the chicks...
: Some of us are looking for the Kevin Smith's out there, rather than the Ben Affleck's. ;-)
Speak for yourself. I'm all about the Affleck booty...
[Sir Jimmy]
I hold my breath and close my eyes and dream about her, 'cause she's 2000 light years away...