Posted by Strictly Skewed at 206.165.115.194 on February 25, 2004 at 10:51:42:
In Reply to: Re: because her environment fostered it? posted by Xtian on February 25, 2004 at 10:42:24:
: i dont think anything i typed was meant to convey surprise, or even cause an eyebrow to be raised.
Maybe not surprise, but neither did your post convery sympathy or understanding. It was more like, get over it.
: i am not a huge fan of generalizations, and i hate coming in to relationships bearing the baggage of all men, when i am, but a man.
Sorry, guess that's life. Generalizations may be difficult at times, but they're also necessary. Generalizations help us understand that other people are different from us, and give us at least a starting point about how to deal with this. Personally, I think the healthiest way of approaching a relationship, is to start with generalizations, but then find out how this person (seems) to differ from these generalizations. Of course, I could be totally wrong here.
: : My father was an alcoholic and a womanizer. Is it surprising that *I* have problems relating to other men?
: slightly, yes. one might assume your relating issues might be more woman-centric.
Not sure what you mean by this. Perhaps you mean this because I was raised by a single female parent? This would, of course, be an assumption on your part, although true in this case. But there is a definite element in that whenever I see behavior in myself or others that I associate with my father (good or bad), I'm pretty instantly turned off.