Posted by Xtian at would.you.fellate.us on February 25, 2004 at 11:01:25:
In Reply to: Re: because her environment fostered it? posted by Strictly Skewed on February 25, 2004 at 10:51:42:
: Maybe not surprise, but neither did your post convery sympathy or understanding. It was more like, get over it.
if i had been sympathetic, i would have expressed sympathy... if i wanted her to get over it, i would have used the words 'get over it'...but probably slapped a 'bitch' on the end for emphasis.
what i wanted to do, and i think i did, was point out that kids aren’t raised in a vacuum, and that the remaining parent probably had as much to do with the resultant attitude as the absent one.
: Sorry, guess that's life.
perhaps it is life, but that doesn’t mean I have to like it or accept it or allow other people in my event horizon to foster it. consider me the board change agent, if you will.
:Generalizations may be difficult at times, but they're also necessary. Generalizations help us understand that other people are different from us, and give us at least a starting point about how to deal with this.
on paper, sure, they do. in reality (where i often go for indian take away) generalizations are end points, they offer the weak minded and weak willed to latch onto an already formed and accepted opinion, preventing them from having to form their own. comforting, isn’t it? necessary? definitely not.
: Personally, I think the healthiest way of approaching a relationship, is to start with generalizations, but then find out how this person (seems) to differ from these generalizations. Of course, I could be totally wrong here.
no, you cannot be wrong; for it is your opinion…mine just happens to differ. i don’t like coming into any sort of relationship: business, personal, money-for-sex with any sort of preconceptions at all. i’m more of a tabula rasa type of cat, and i prefer to let my adversary/partner/escort fill in the blanks, so that i don’t make any wrong assumptions or generalizations, thereby tainting the relationship at its most delicate juncture.
: Not sure what you mean by this.
what i meant by that is that if i was raised at the foot of a drinking womanizer, i might take to drink and womanizing, and have some pretty screwed up views on women…and drinking.