Posted by jkm822 at 208.140.189.12 on July 11, 2001 at 13:38:04:
In Reply to: Dreaming the impossible dream posted by Darth Dobbin on July 11, 2001 at 13:00:35:
You're absolutely right, that's exactly what I want. Haven't found it yet, haven't even come close. I'm not saying I'm not looking anymore, but I've got a lot less faith in that ideal than I once did. It's not a question of believing I deserve it, it's a question of whether or not there's someone out there that can DO all those things. No relationship is that perfect, man; anyone who says differently is selling something. I know they say "there's someone out there for everyone," but there's a shitload of very lonely people out there - and I don't mean 20-somethings and younger, who haven't really lived yet and think that each relationship is True Love, but honest-to-goodness grown-ups who've been there and done that, gone for the brass ring, dreamed the impossible dream, blah blah blah, and STILL haven't found that ever-elusive "one".
A happy medium, by the way, isn't boring. A happy medium is something that can survive the ups and downs without disintigrating, not something that doesn't include those ups and downs. You talk about the highs being contrasted with the depths, and I don't deny that. But I know that when most of the highs are experienced when you're fooling yourself, and the depths are the defining aspect of the relationship, you're in the wrong relationship.
And the Emporer of America was a novelty and a tourist attraction with no real power, despite how lovely his dreams may have been. I read Sandman, too, remember?
I sound like a complete and total cynic, but to be fair, I'm partially just playing devil's advocate to your message of bright, shiny hope. One positive thing I've learned over the years is that when you're looking the hardest for love is when you're least likely to find it. It's when you're finally good with who you are and what's going on in your life that love has a tendency to smack into you like a Mack truck and turn your life around. I still have hope, I'm not THAT jaded; I'm a hopeless romantic, really. But these days, I try to be more selective about who I fall for. Once bitten....
Jill